can't even fathom what it would be like. sorry, paul
erm.... i am not a huge fan of death, i get a bit uncomfortable & become an idiot not knowing what to say and trying to think of something different to say that hasn't been said, yet never come up with anything more than the cookie cutter "i'm sorry, etc etc"... because i feel that if i try and say something different and more meaningful i will sound like an arse and look cold and heartless - not that i would say anything cold and heartless on purpose - but ...
well, for example... my grandmother died in 93 and my dad and i are sort of alike in the "oh god, it's uncomfortable" sort of way and "hey how can we make people smile even though it's not really a 'smiling time'?"...
well, dad's way of getting through the day was asking folks if they'd like a peppermint... it was something for him to do... so everyone was asked... a few times... he had the bowl of them at the wake...
anyhoo... i sort of don't like seeing my dad uncomfortable (daughter trying to protect daddy syndrome) and i call out - to lighten the mood - "Dad, you forgot to ask granmom if she wanted a mint"
a *gasp* sort of permiates from the crowd...
dad, perhaps not wanting to see his daughter uncomfortable, walks over to the coffin and leans in, asks granmom if she wants a mint, leans back up and announces "Nope, she says she's fine"
insert bigger *gasp* with cries of "Bob!!" and "Erin!"
and then dad and i went outside (more like, were banished to the outside) and had a couple of mints.
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eh... let's try and lighten the mood here....
[thanks to quinn for the link]
