gigglemom just called me and she is as PISSED as a wet cat in an electric factory right now... at me.
she's all "i don't know why you need to have me go to a rehab - why can't you clean when i am there - i am a 68 year old woman - etc etc etc"
i was like "it's not like i am shipping you off to a nursing home forever. you can get the rehab exercise there and shower more easily than here. just go get better."
but there was a growling match out of her and then she wound up hanging up on me.
she called me a control freak. which is HARDLY the case when it comes to this mother-daughter relationship. she's the one that's always had her thumb pressed down on me.
whatever.
she's trying to guilt me. i can't handle it.
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big breath, you're doing the right thing.
i know exactly what you are going through. my father in law just got out of the hospital for pneumonia and copd. he has emphysema too, and doesn't take care of himself. consequently he's now living with us. he is sharing a room with my two sons for the time being. he will probably be moving in with us permanantly. i really don't mind. i would just like some people to acknowledge the burden it puts on me, and when i say people, i mean my husband. anyway, i feel for you girl!
Yeah, Catholic guilt, gotta love it! Mom did the same thing to me the second time she got a hip replacement, when I suggested she go to rehab in the nursing home for 21 days rather than come live with me and have me take off work 3 times a week to schlep her all over hells half acre. She could stay at the rehab, get PT 3 times a day rather than 3 times a week, have her hair done, bathe without having to hurt going up and down the stairs, etc., etc., etc. Well, long story short, that's what has kept her ambulatory these last 3 years! She got what she needed to be a little self sufficient and can still drive short distances, lives at home (4 doors down from me - we also have condos/townhouses) so I can call, go by, check on her, take her meals, whatever she needs.
I firmly believe if she had come home instead of going to rehab, she would STILL be at MY house!
My 2 cents for what it's worth. Keep up the good work, Erin! You're a good daughter! (And a strong advocate! Way to go on that one, too!)
You are a good daughter, Erin. If I ever find myself in the same predicament, I'm totally going to look back on these blogs for strength.
Hang in there, Erin. I think a lot of it is frustration with her situation, too. I've seen my family members (and my husband's) have the same attitudes and end up lashing out at the people they love most, when a lot of it is anger at themselves or their situation. Aging sucks! You're so used to being self-sufficient, and then it goes to hell-in-a-handbasket. I think the hardest part for a lot of people is realizing you need help, like she will get at rehab. I hope she will calm down and realize it's the best thing for both of you.
Sure you can handle it.....just think of all the things she's ever made you do that you didnt want to, like eat your vegetables .....even the gross ones like brussle sprouts and lima beans....you know this is better for you just like she knew the veggies were good for :)....on a lighter note....BB9 started tonight :) guess you didnt catch it since you are busy with more important things...if you did you think?
[note from GC: yep, i caught it. it could get interesting. that sheila chick has got to go.]
AGREED, she HAS to go....a little too full of herself, that poor guy, I felt so bad for him.
Ps....sorry for that last post not making too much sense ....my mind was going faster then my fingers could type :)
[note from GC: for a sec, i thought you were talking about gigglemom!! shiela and adam are still there. i'm watching the feeds. i'm still pissed that jokersupdates.com banned my IP address... i can't live feed update]
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